He keeps scratching himself, or at least that is what it looks like. His feet, elbow and shins have countless scabs. Is it that his skin is getting thinner or is it something else more sinister? I had to wash the blood off his elbow in the kitchen sink yesterday. The reek of iron was overpowering. And I thought one’s sense of smell was supposed to lessen with age.
Generally, I don’t mind it. Though extreme heat can take its toll. It’s just the way in which it throws out one’s routine. What to wear, for instance. Silly problems, considering the grand scheme of things, but when anxious they do unsettle. And then I feel ashamed for my pettiness… But the sun is lovely though…
I’m not sure why I find it so comforting seeing him arrive in his pick-up truck so as to deliver milk to the couple we call Hank and Deidre. I think it must be the regularity of it, though usually he comes in the early hours, his miner’s torch clamped over his baseball cap. I remember milkmen in floats, and the gentle whirring sound of their motors. And then there was the one would come in a horse and cart, deliver to Nanny C.. I loved the sound of the hooves and the clink of bottles. Such detail helps. Always.
I am so sorry for you. I know that you have worked hard, done what you thought was right. You have given what you could. Must you go? Probably. I feel for you. We are the same age, the same kind of persona, though I wouldn’t have shown the strength that you have. I wish you well.
I know it is only fiction, but it is hard to witness, nevertheless, and their stories get under my skin. Is it because I experienced the same, albeit only briefly? No running water, no sanitation, no heat, and the shame of it. It’s all there in those stories. He tells me to forget it, to not revisit it, that it was a long time ago. And it was, but it is never far away and my fear of its returning is ever present.
Mostly, I do ok. I manage it. But sometimes, like this morning, I want to take to my bed and never move again. They feel like they’ve been wrenched from the socket and are tearing. Torn. And then the aching comes.
Sometimes it is worse than my arthritis, though I think one exacerbates the other. I remember Dad saying once that he was having a break from playing golf as a result of having it. And yet, I was under the impression that exercise was the cure. Perhaps he had it worse. It, like so much these days, must be borne. With, one hopes, grace.
I write, and to a certain extent, draw to remember. I work hard at trying keep hold of my dreams, though I can only manage the details of one a night, when I have several. Last night I was climbing a hill, though, as the terrain was soft clay it was more like crawling on my hands and knees. I was trying to reach the top, which I did. There was a little house up there with huge holes for windows and I think it was roofless. I told my unknown female companion that I wanted to live there, though admitting to the folly of this as I already had a home at the bottom of the hill.
He fell down the stairs this morning. He wasn’t hurt, thankfully but it did take some time to get him up again.
When I left for my walk at 3.00am there was a man on the bridge ahead of me. I’ve seen him lots of times. He has a flat in Block C. He is small, never gives eye contact and looks unhappy. When he leaves for work he is often listening to a small transistor radio that he holds close to his head. I don’t recognise the language that they are speaking.
They come in the wee small hours. And then there is the news with all that bad stuff to further increase them. It is mostly about how I will manage once he is gone. He says it is useless to worry, and he is right, but it is hard to stop. I have worried since I was a child, and do not know how to stop. Not now. I must just live with it, try to breathe, put in place all I can and then trust that all will come right. Mostly, it does.
This time it was an ex-politician and then writer. I liked hearing his voice, treacly, steady, reasonable. A good man, I think. We need more. R.I.P. R H.