Author: Ellen Bell

I went on my walk this morning all prepared to listen to music. I had my headphones on all ready. And then I forgot. I was outside before I remembered and by then both coats had been zipped up tight and there was no way I was going to unzip them and then remove my gloves to find where my iPad rested in that inner pocket. So I walked in silence. Well, it wasn’t strictly silent. How could it be? This is an urban space. I listened as I walked. I heard birdsong. A blackbird and then a robin, perhaps. I heard an occasional car and a low continuous hum. What was that? Generators? Electricity cables? Drains? I don’t mind it. And besides the countryside as we know it here in the UK is certainly never really quiet – there are birds there too, and foxes barking and maybe even the grunt of badgers. I like being part of the noise with my footsteps, the click of my stick and the swoosh of my waterproofs. Its a vocalising of animation, of life. And I’m glad that I can still participate in it.

I dreamt of messages and of phone calls I had to make and receive. One was from Aberdeenshire, I think. I couldn’t work my mobile, it’s screen was full of arcane images. But there was a sense of optimism, of hope for for all the chaos of misunderstandings, there were opportunities coming. I knew this even when I woke.

She’s an odd mix of scatological boldness and maidenly prudery. She needs constant attention like a child. If she’s not being asked questions or being listened to she looks away either staring out of the window or around the coffee shop, or she’ll resort to reading her phone. To get that attention she has various ruses from bringing in her Jack Russell pup to listing her aches and pains. Over the last few days it moved swiftly from being all about her hip to a kidney infection. As a result she turned up on Friday bra-less. “I can’t take my coat off,” she said to me in a conspiratorial whisper, “I’ve got no bra on. It hurts too much.” I encouraged her to take the risk and take it off. She did, blushing a bit. This is from the woman who calls her erstwhile fiancé all numbers of names…. Funny.

There were two denuded real Christmas Trees with their bases lopped off leaning against the back doors of The Glengower Hotel this morning.

The volunteer came in the coffee shop, as did the caramel latte. It was good to see them again. A sense of some kind of normality is almost returning. She told us that she’d had a guest for Christmas dinner. A new relationship and she is as pleased as we are. “It’s been ten years,” she said. She looks lighter, happier. And CL was laughing too. A good morning. I worked hard.

No rain as I walked, but the wind was strong. Tuesday is bin day and if it isn’t seagulls playing havoc with the bags left outside flats and houses around the town it’s the wind. A clear recycling bag skidded across the stretch of North Parade to come up sharp against the kerb opposite the launderette. Another bag followed spilling it contents across the road. A large plastic pop bottle rolled along the pavement followed by a series of cans. Another smaller bag was lifted off the ground and danced and whirled like a dervish.

E’s book continues to bring me burst of joys as she writes of searching out indigo in London and of cafes……

He’s a student studying Astro Physics, I believe and he works as a barista in our local coffee shop. He’s a good-looking man, slightly effete and a mixture of earnestness with a sprinkling of camp-ness. I heard him talking to him at the end of the as he made our drinks and telling him about his partner’s visit during Christmas. “He prefers cities but it was a rest for him, ” adding, “I’ve got my other partner coming at the weekend. I’m a bit of a Polly.”

I think about her everyday. It is a scar on my heart and on my soul. Did I do the right thing?

I want to make the ugly beautiful. It was always the case. I want to write it out but cannot find the words. Will they come? And I also want to sew out the grief. A black square made with simple stitches.

Ellie’s book is a joy. And how I need it in this dark.

Though I dread the initiating of it, walking in the dark can be magical. Was it Monday when I walked along the Prom round from the harbour and saw them? They were fluttering and rushing forth in the wind, a huge wave of orange sparks. It caught my breath. It was a fire. Someone, a man in black was stoking an immense fire against one of the stone groynes. The smell, the cracking, the yellow, fiery flickers – it was like something from some kind of gorgeous hell. It was wondrous. And then there was the police van that I followed along South Road, only to see it parked ahead of me, and to see the policeman through the window standing in the lounge of one of the students’ houses. I know the house. I often look in, captivated by the idea of having a pool table, as they do, in the living room. The officer was standing, jacket off, bullet-proof vest left on, his arms crossed looking down on a student who was sprawled on the sofa, a large plaster stuck to his forehead. Had he called 999? It was his bodily insolence that struck me. Had someone shopped him? We will never know.

He calls her every day. They mostly talk what he calls “bollocks” about what she’s watching on TV, or reading, or whether she’s had a walk (up and down the Home’s corridors in this weather) or been ‘squedging’ (their words for a kind of buttock squeezing to strengthen her muscles) and doing ‘chair ballet’ – or as they call it ‘pointy toes’, to which he always adds “with no farting, I hope”. I’m usually making supper when he calls her and I generally listen or add a comment which he passes on, particularly when I can hear that he is struggling to think of things to say. It is difficult for her. She is a private person, self-contained and elegant. The effusive friendliness of such places is not her thing. But what choice does she have but to acquiesce. She keeps it at bay as much as she can. ‘They’ve put a plastic wreath on my door,’ she told us on Christmas Eve. And yesterday she talked about being “dragooned into going to meet Santa.” Poor love. What did you get? he asked. A box of crayons, she replied. And some time later she told him that she’d also been given a pair of trainers. Perhaps from the Home management? They’d clearly noticed her efforts to remain active and thought it would be an appropriate gift. She hates them. They’re Nike, she said, and black and pink. No, I can’t see her in trainers. Poor love. Anyway, we’ve agreed on our next visit to take them, and the crayons, away with us under cover of darkness. It is good to hear her laugh.

My laptop purrs. It’s a gentle hum, a woozy kind of fizzing sound. She’s on the way out, bless her. I’ve had her for an age and I don’t want to exchange. It’s not sentiment but a real, deep down fear of technology, especially new technology. I am used to her and her quirks, so I try to be patient, willing her to fire up each morning and do what I need her to do. One day she just won’t. I know this. Till then I hang on, trying to be patient with that interminable turning blue circle on the screen.

He got me the cat. She is called Patricia or more fondly (already, even though she is probably plastic, or fibreglass or a kind of cheap ceramic and she’s boss-eyed) Pat the Cat. Welcome to your home.

He’s from my long ago. Does he remember me? Does he know who I am or was the praise he gave me via Instagram for a drawing I’d posted, (again, from long ago) unconditional and an act of absolute spontaneity. The words he word were short but meaningful, for me. The other students used to call him God. I didn’t but I understood the reference. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the trouble and mostly for the pleasure it gave him.

I saw the turban-wearing Sikh this morning. He was striding towards me along Llanbadarn Road. He never gives me eye contact. I am always ready to give a nod of the head but he looks straight ahead, concentrating, no doubt on walking and punching the air with his hands as he did so.

And I saw a cat. Not a real one. It was in the shabby shop on Northgate Street. He says he will have a look. Was it wood, plastic or ceramic? I couldn’t tell. Might it come home to us and join our fast increasing family of things?

He’s been doing it for a while now, though up until now its usually been during breakfast. It’s my diabetes, he says, as his eyes start to become heavy, so heavy that soon he can no longer keep them open. I go back and forth up and down the stairs doing things and when I come back up he’s gone. Head bent forward, chin touching chest and shoulders rounded. He falls asleep watching things in bed, his iPad often slipping to the floor. Yesterday he started to go after supper. Why can’t I be more patient with him when he does this? It is after all, (like his chronic flatulence, yes, I know), beyond his control. But I am not. I get cross, irritated. I want him to be vital, awake and alive. And this, this snoozing at the table smacks of a dotage I don’t want to face – yet. It will come. Help me to be kinder when it does.